It’s not uncommon for a woman to have never had an orgasm, a little fact that isn’t too hard to wrap your head around when you consider that only 23% of females orgasm during sex compared to 52% of males. The thing is, despite some of us having an orgasm, we’re all capable of having one, it’s just about discovering what works to you there.

Sexologists claim there are around 12 ways to orgasm, including clitoral, G-spot, blended, anal, urethra and breast – to name a few – with clitoral and G-spot being the most common and easiest to attain… with a little help of course.

The best way to explore what type of orgasms are going to be earth-shattering for you is to experiment by yourself. Once you’ve figured out what works for you solo, you can bring your partner into play and have twice the fun.

What is a clitoral orgasm?

While clitoral stimulation is fundamental for most women to orgasm, society has conditioned us to focus on penetration as the most important part of sex. Once you start showing your clitoris a little love while you’re having sex or masturbating, you’ll be one step closer to the big-O!

The clitoris contains around 8,000 sensitive nerve endings, which is double that in the head of a penis, making it super-receptive to stimulation. Once you apply enough stimulation where it matters you’ll be well on your way to an orgasm.

How do you have a clitoral orgasm?

To start, you’ll need to locate the clitoris. Use your fingers to spread apart your outer lips (labia majora) and inner lips (labia minora). At the top of the ‘slit’, there’s usually a flap of skin connected to the inner lips, this is the clitoral hood. Under that is the external part of the clitoris called the ‘glans’. This is where you want to stimulate. Always apply a little lubricant first no matter how naturally wet you can get. This way you’ll avoid any friction or discomfort that might distract your form your orgasm.

From there, start rubbing your clit, you can move in circular motions, back and forth, whatever feels right for you. If you struggle to find the right stimulation with your fingers, try using a clit stimulator like LELO’s SONA 2 or SILA (FYI: use the code LIFEHACKER at the checkout for 15% off). Clit stimulators are designed to hover over the clit, pulse and vibrate to stimulate those nerve endings until you edge closer and closer to an orgasm.

Remember that every clit is unique meaning each has its a different level of sensitivity and stimulation it needs to achieve an orgasm. Explore your vagina, figure out what feels good and do more of it.

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What’s the difference between a clitoral orgasm and a G-spot orgasm?

The easiest way to explain it is that a clitoral orgasm happens when the clitoris is stimulated externally, while a G-spot orgasm happens when the clitoris is stimulated internally.

What’s a G-spot orgasm?

The G-spot is located about two to three inches inside the front wall of the vagina and feels kind of like the inside of your cheek but bumpy. It’s said that the G-spot is likely to be a part of the deeper clitoral structure behind the front vaginal wall. When that particular spot is stimulated enough and in the right way, you can have an orgasm.

How do you have a G-spot orgasm?

A common technique for encouraging a g-spot orgasm is to insert one or two fingers inside the vagina with the palm facing upwards then make a ‘come hither’ motion. This causes tissue surrounding the urethra/g-spot to swell, resulting in an orgasm.

If you can’t find you G-spot with your fingers, I’d recommend using a G-spot vibrator like LELO’s GIGI 2 . G-spot vibrators take the guesswork out of the process because it’s specifically designed to target the area. The curved design with the bulbous tip allows you to effortlessly reach the G-spot and stimulate it until an orgasm is reached. The GIGI 2 also has 8 pleasure settings, meaning you can switch between intensities until you find the one for you.

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As someone who has probably spent just as many Valentine’s Days single as I have coupled up, I can tell you now that you’re not really missing much.

Sure, it’s nice to do cute things as a couple (if my boyfriend’s reading this, this is not your get out of gaol free card), but you know what you don’t need a lover for? A good time and good orgasms. (Sorry, babe). There are plenty of ways to get yourself through a solo V’day without feeling depressed as hell.

1. Organise a Galentine’s day date

Still feel like getting dolled up and eating out? Grab the girls and do it anyway. Beat the loved-up couples by booking in early and treating yourselves.

2. Have a mind-blowing orgasm (or 10)

If you ask me, self-love and self-pleasure are basically the same thing. Buy yourself a new vibrator for the big day, light some candles, set the mood and show yourself a damn good time. If you’re comfortable, take things slow, explore your body and experiment with what makes your orgasm.

And just to add to the V-day pleasure, LELO is having a 20% off sale until February 14 using the code VDAY21 at the checking, so if you’re more of a clitoral orgasm kinda gal, try LELO’s SONA 2 (was $139, wow $111.20) or if you’re aiming for the g-spot, try LELO’s GIGI 2 (was $189, now $151.20).

Image: LELO

3. Have a rom-com marathon

If you really wanna go all anti-valentines day, load up your Netflix watch list with rom-coms and breakup movies , sit back, relax and cry if you want to.

4. Settle into a little self-care

Grab your favourite face mask, some candles, a bottle of wine, your favourite snacks and settle in for a night of self-care — whatever that looks like for you.

5. Try something new

Wine not book in for a wine and painting class? It’s the perfect excuse to get boozy, crafty and avoid Valentine’s Day altogether. If painting isn’t really your vibe, you could try a pottery class, a dance class, indoor rock climbing, a cooking class, literally any kind of activity that sounds like a good time.

6. Do a workout

If you’re looking for a little feel-good moment, nothing beats a workout (except maybe an orgasm). Get your heart racing in a different way, go for a run, do an online workout, hit the gym or go on a scenic walk with friends, any of these workouts will give you a huge dose of mood-boosting endorphins.

7. Get an astrology, tarot or energy reading

Get rid of that bad ex energy by booking in for a chakra cleanse. Learn more about what future Valentine’s Days have in store with a psychic or tarot reading. Whether you believe in it or it’s just for fun, it’s a great way to spend V-day.

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8. Buy your own gift

Half the hype of Valentine’s Day is the buying and receiving of gifts. If you really feel like you’re missing out, buy yourself a gift. You know exactly what you want/need so why not cut out the middle man?

9. Avoid Instagram for the day

If seeing other people’s loved-up couple pics on the Instagram is going to make you feel sad about being single, try to avoid doom scrolling or delete the app entirely (not your account, just the app for the day).

10. Take yourself out

You don’t have to be in a couple to go out for a meal, see a show or stroll in an art gallery on Valentine’s Day. So why not book yourself a seat for the play you’ve been dying to see or go check out that tapas bar everyone’s been raving about.

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