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      Podcast #865: How to Win Friends and Influence People in the 21st Century

      tests.marevalo.net / The Art of Manliness · Thursday, 19 January, 2023 - 02:54 · 2 minutes

    Over the last year, my 12-year-old son has been doing one challenge every week as a rite of passage and chance to earn a special trip. Some of these challenges have involved reading a book in a week, and the most recent book we gave him to read was How to Win Friends & Influence People by Dale Carnegie. His review? He said it was the best book he’s read so far.

    So a book written almost 90 years ago can still be a favorite of a kid in the 21st century. Talk about some staying power.

    The advice in How to Win Friends & Influence People , and Dale Carnegie’s other classic, How to Stop Worrying and Start Living , is timeless. But to help introduce it to a new audience, my guest, Joe Hart, has recently co-authored the book Take Command , which synthesizes, updates, and adds to the principles of Carnegie’s two perennial bestsellers. Joe is the President and CEO of Dale Carnegie & Associates, which continues Carnegie’s work in the present day, and we begin our conversation with some background on the guy who kicked off this work back in 1936. We then talk about what principles we can take from How to Stop Worrying and Start Living on developing a positive mindset. From there, we talk about the big overarching principle of How to Win Friends & Influence People , and how you can use it to improve your relationships. We end our conversation with advice on how to live life with more intentionality and meaning.

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      Are You a Strategist or an Operator?

      Brett & Kate McKay · tests.marevalo.net / The Art of Manliness · Tuesday, 17 January, 2023 - 16:51 · 7 minutes

    In the years after World War I, longtime Army colleagues and friends George S. Patton and Dwight D. Eisenhower contemplated what would happen if another global conflict broke out. As Patton envisioned it : “In the next war, I’ll be the Stonewall Jackson, and you can be the Robert E. Lee. Ike, you do the big planning, and you let me go in and shoot up the enemy.”

    And that’s pretty much how things worked out in World War II.

    Eisenhower led from Allied headquarters as Europe’s Supreme Commander, while Patton served on the ground as commander of the Third and Seventh armies.

    Ike, who lacked battlefield experience, was nonetheless brilliant as a theater commander. Having spent his career as a highly effective staff officer, he had a genius for planning, marshaling material, organizing logistics, and practicing diplomacy. Charming, modest, flexible, and steady, he excelled at getting the disparate and sometimes rivalrous Allied leaders to work together, interfacing with politicians and the press, and keeping all the pieces of a monumental war effort sorted and spinning.

    Patton, on the other hand, had little patience for politicking and wasn’t lauded for his ability to formulate high-level plans. But, he possessed all the traits necessary for superior battlefield command. Bold and aggressive, he executed missions with mastery and confidence and advanced with relentless drive .

    While each man’s position and responsibilities were different, each excelled in his particular role.

    Ike was the consummate strategist.

    Patton was born to be an operator.

    Strategists Versus Operators

    Andrew Wilson, a professor at the Naval War College, describes the difference between Eisenhower and Patton as the difference between having a bent toward strategy versus having a bent toward operations.

    Wilson defines strategy as “the means by which you translate political purpose” — what the political leadership hopes to achieve with a war — “into military action, and how it is that you anticipate military action to deliver your political purpose. . . . So strategy is the bridge between policy and military actions.”

    Operations, he says, are those military actions — “essentially the big muscle movements, the battles.”

    Those who excel in that second kind of work — operators — do best on the ground and in the field. They excel at, and derive satisfaction from, practicing and carrying out a certain skill, craft, or art.

    Those who excel at the first kind of work — strategists — do best in high-level positions. They excel at, and derive satisfaction from, overseeing, organizing, and supervising those who practice and carry out skills, crafts, and arts.

    Another way to describe the strategists versus operators dichotomy is as managers versus tacticians.

    It’s a distinction in men’s proclivities that extends beyond the military context, and it’s crucial to know which category you fall into.

    Are You a Strategist or an Operator?

    While there are a few men who are adept at both strategy and operations, most primarily lean toward one over the other.

    Problems arise when men don’t have the self-awareness and foresight to understand their personal strengths and propensities, and end up in a role for which they are ill-suited.

    Strategists Becoming Operators

    Sometimes a man is doing well as a manager type, but may desire a job in the field, perhaps because such work seems “sexier.” For example, he may have done well for years as a supervisor within a company, but thinks about striking out on his own and becoming an entrepreneur, even though the skill set necessary for success in the former pursuit isn’t likely to translate to success in the latter.

    Eisenhower thought about making this kind of shift.

    In the lead-up to WWII, Ike thought he’d like to work alongside Patton and become the commander of an armored regiment. He had never seen combat; because he was so good at training others, he had been kept stateside during WWI and tasked with preparing troops to deploy. Having missed out on the consummate experience of a military career during the First World War, he was determined to get into the field during the Second.

    So when in 1941, a general in the War Plans Division asked Eisenhower to consider joining its staff in Washington, Ike demurred. He really liked the prospect of that position, and knew he’d do well there, but felt that a field command was something he was supposed to prefer. He felt conflicted, and worried he’d “pass[ed] up something I wanted to do, in favor of something I thought I ought to do.”

    Eisenhower needn’t have worried. While he continued to position himself for field command, his administrative abilities were too valuable to be dispensed with, and he was eventually appointed chief of staff to the commander of the Third Army, then Chief of the War Plans Division, and eventually Supreme Allied Commander. Ike’s sense of personal satisfaction, and the fate of world history, benefitted from his sticking to these strategic positions.

    Operators Becoming Strategists

    What happens more often than managerial men trying to shift into tactical roles is tacticians being promoted into administrative positions. Those who excel in operational roles are frequently moved up the ranks. The problem is, the skills required to succeed as tactical operators don’t typically translate into success as strategic supervisors. This is the essence of the “Peter principle.” And not only may a tactician placed in a managerial or executive job struggle to be competent in that position, he is also unlikely to enjoy it.

    Entrepreneurs who successfully launch start-ups often don’t transition well to becoming the CEOs who run them. Fitness coaches who excel at training clients frequently flounder at owning their own gyms. Pastors who have the skill set to plant churches don’t always have the skill set to oversee the large, established congregations they grow into. Doctors who like practicing hands-on medicine won’t be satisfied spending their days supervising teams of nurses. Academics who enjoy teaching end up less happy as deans than they were as professors.

    Writers and artists, who initially function as fully autonomous operators, sometimes try hiring assistants and social media gurus to expand the empire around their “brand,” but find they’d rather keep their “business” smaller than to give over any of the time they could be creating to managing other people.

    Sometimes an operator has to transition to being a strategist because the fieldwork they do is physical in nature and takes a toll on the body. As a man who works in the trades gets older, for example, he may find it desirable and/or necessary to move from working on projects himself to supervising the work of others.

    But oftentimes, an operator ends up in a managerial position because he feels he’s supposed to take it and defaults to following the standard professional trajectory. The next rung up the ladder may take someone out of the field, but the position comes with more money, power, and/or status. A man thinks he ought to keep moving up in the world, even if that “advancement” puts him into a position he’s less suited for and finds less fulfilling.

    Do You Want to Be in the War Room or in the Trenches?

    It’s important to know who you are: a strategist or an operator.

    If you’re a manager type, lean into that, even if that job may not seem as sexy as others. Administrators are absolutely crucial in keeping the world spinning round, and even help win world wars.

    If you’re the tactician type, do some real reflection before you accept that “promotion.” Is the benefit in money and status worth the tradeoff in fulfillment that comes from doing a job you’re brilliant at and love? It’s okay to recognize that you like carrying out orders more than formulating them. And it’s okay to value the chance to practice the things you’re really skilled at more than a bigger office.

    When Eisenhower was serving as Allied Supreme Commander in North Africa during WWII, his forces experienced some initial setbacks on the battlefield, and the Army’s Chief of Staff, George Marshall, suggested that Ike bring Patton in to serve as his deputy and oversee the fighting. But Patton balked at the idea of taking a more administrative job. He understood that he could do more good on the ground than at HQ, and that an operator belongs in the field — not behind a desk.

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      Podcast #864: Advice on Achieving Any Long-Haul Dream

      Brett & Kate McKay · tests.marevalo.net / The Art of Manliness · Monday, 16 January, 2023 - 16:56 · 1 minute

    In a world that celebrates overnight success, it’s easy to forget that very often, achieving your dreams takes a heck of a long time. My guest knows this all too well. You may know Steven Pressfield as the bestselling author of books like The Legend of Bagger Vance , Gates of Fire , and The War of Art , but as he details in his new memoir, Govt Cheese , it took more than a quarter century for him to become a published novelist.
    Today on the show, Steven talks about what he learned in that journey, and the many odd jobs, from driving trucks to picking apples, that he took along the way. We discuss the lessons Steven gleaned that apply to achieving any dream, including how to overcome a propensity for self-sabotage, get your ego out of the way, finish what you start, and develop the killer instinct.

    This is a great, motivating conversation on learning not to “pull the pin” on the important commitments in your life. And we’ll explain what that means coming up.

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      Skill of the Week: Shine Your Shoes

      Brett & Kate McKay · tests.marevalo.net / The Art of Manliness · Sunday, 15 January, 2023 - 16:07

    An important part of manhood has always been about having the competence to be effective in the world — having the breadth of skills, the savoir-faire , to handle any situation you find yourself in. With that in mind, each Sunday we’ll be republishing one of the illustrated guides from our archives, so you can hone your manly know-how week by week.

    Whether it’s an upcoming wedding, graduation, or simply another day at the office, a pair of shiny shoes can set you apart as a man who cares about the details.

    Not only does shining your shoes add panache to your appearance, it is a necessary part of properly caring for and maintaining a nice pair of leather shoes or boots . The polish itself helps moisturize and waterproof the leather, lengthening the lifespan of your shoes.

    All you need to get going is a soft cloth, a can of shoe polish, and a good shoe brush.

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      Sunday Firesides: You’ll Warm Up

      Brett & Kate McKay · tests.marevalo.net / The Art of Manliness · Sunday, 15 January, 2023 - 05:02 · 1 minute

    What’s the perfect temperature for running a marathon?

    You might imagine that it’s a balmy 70 degrees.

    But, in fact, most runners turn in their best performances when the temperature resides in the low-to-mid 40s. The fastest runners do their best when the temperature sits in the upper 30s.

    Running long distances generates a tremendous amount of metabolic heat. The faster you run, the more heat you produce. Temperatures that feel cold when you’re standing around in them can feel oppressively hot once you start chugging along.

    You’ve likely noticed this phenomenon with all kinds of wintertime activities. When you check the weather report, and look at the gray landscape through your window, you don’t want to leave the house. But get yourself out the door anyway, and start skiing or shoveling, and soon enough you’re sweating bullets and stripping off layers. You get to feeling perfectly comfortable in a way that belies what the mercury may say.

    It’s the same experience with any new habit, practice, town, school, or job you’re starting out “cold” with. From the outside looking in, the climate may not seem welcoming. You may dread stepping into it. And it does feel stiffly frigid once you do. It doesn’t seem possible you’ll ever feel comfortable living in this new place or doing this new thing. You just want to retreat to the coziness of how you did things before.

    But that which seems forbidding from a stationary standpoint, feels entirely different when you’re on the move.

    The hardest part is getting going. Once you do, the heat generated by vigorous investment and consistent action will warm you right through.

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      Odds and Ends: January 13, 2023

      Brett · tests.marevalo.net / The Art of Manliness · Friday, 13 January, 2023 - 14:53 · 2 minutes

    Lectures on René Girard’s Mimetic Theory I’ve been watching these video lectures by Jonathan Bi and David Perell during my Zone 2 cardio lately. I was first introduced to the idea of René Girard’s “mimetic theory” when Luke Burgis came on the AoM podcast . These lectures on the subject are very well done and provide a lot of food for thought about why we want what we want and how our desires can create conflict.

    Jayber Crow by Wendell Berry Several years ago, Kate’s late Uncle Buzz mailed this book to me out of the blue with a note that said something to the effect of “This book is about a small town barber in Kentucky. It’s hard to describe why you want to keep reading it, but I couldn’t put it down. I think you might like it too.” And I did! It became one of my favorite books. This was my first introduction to the writing of Wendell Berry, and I’ve since become a fan. I plan on re-reading Jayber Crow this year. Join me. You won’t regret it.

    Wireless charging stand for Apple Watch and iPhone. I got tired of having to look for an Apple charging cable every night because the kids moved the charging port somewhere else in the house to charge their Switch or iPad. So I found this three-in-one charging station that sits on my office desk. It can charge your Apple Watch, iPhone, and AirPods all at once. Pretty dang convenient.

    The College Essay Is Dead. Writing has long been used as a way to assess the mental fitness and aptitude of students and job candidates. Essays for classes and college applications, as well as cover letters for job applications, have always been less about the actual content than showing the reader/reviewer that you’re a generally competent person who knows how to use language. What happens, then, when artificial intelligence programs like ChatGPT can be used to crank these essays out? Will writing still be used as a gauge of intelligence and aptitude? Will teaching writing to students still be as important as it once was? There’s been a lot of ink spilt lately on the impact A.I. will have, and this Atlantic article is one of the best at getting at the way it’s going to change our world.

    Quote of the Week:

    Though conditions have grown puzzling in their complexity, though changes have been vast, yet we may remain absolutely sure of one thing; that now as ever in the past, and as it will ever be in the future, there can be no substitute for elemental virtues, for the elemental qualities to which we allude when we speak of a man, not only as a good man, but as emphatically a man. We can build up the standard of individual citizenship and individual well-being, we can raise the national standard and make it what it can and shall be made, only by each of us steadfastly keeping in mind that there can be no substitute for the world-old commonplace qualities of truth, justice, courage, thrift, industry, common sense, and genuine sympathy with the fellow feelings of others.

    —Theodore Roosevelt

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      Bro Basics: The Dip

      Brett & Kate McKay · tests.marevalo.net / The Art of Manliness · Thursday, 12 January, 2023 - 15:44 · 6 minutes

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    Welcome back to Bro Basics , a series that covers exercises that are popular and can be useful but are often done inadequately and shows the exercises’ broader function and how to perform them correctly.

    Are you looking to get a bigger upper body and improve your bench and shoulder press ?

    Then let me introduce you to a supplemental bodyweight exercise you need to start incorporating into your training: the dip.

    What Muscles Do Dips Work?

    The dip works several key muscles in your upper body, particularly ones involved in the bench press, making it a tremendous supplemental movement to improve that lift.

    The dip primarily works the chest/pecs.

    It also hits your triceps, shoulders, and back muscles.

    The amount of work a muscle group receives during the dip depends on your body’s position as you perform the movement. If you lean forward more, you’ll hit your pec and shoulder muscles more; if you maintain a more upright position, you’ll work your triceps more.

    Why Do Dips?

    Dips contribute directly to the main barbell lifts, particularly the bench press. If you want to improve your bench press, the dip can help you with that. As discussed above, the dip primarily works the muscles involved in the bench press: pecs, triceps, and shoulders.

    Besides the bench press, dips can also contribute to increased performance on the shoulder press.

    Helps build big guns. Many dudes think that if you want big arms, you should spend all your time doing bicep curls. While bicep curls can contribute to arm size, working your triceps actually gives you more bang for your buck, since the triceps make up most of your arms’ girth. The dip is a great movement for beefing up your triceps.

    It can be used for conditioning. I typically include dips as part of a conditioning circuit I do after bench pressing. ( Don’t neglect your conditioning! ) It’s a great way to get both stronger and sweaty.

    You can do them outside the gym. Standard dips are performed on a set of parallel bars. But if you don’t have access to those, you can improvise and perform a dip variation on a park bench or chair. This variation is handy to pull out when exercising away from home. Incorporate dips into a circuit along with air squats and push-ups, and you’ve got yourself a quick and effective bodyweight workout.

    The Big Downside of Dips

    While dips come with many benefits, the exercise does have a downside: if performed improperly, it can tear your rotator cuff.

    Back in my twenties, I injured my shoulder doing dips. I went down too deep and too fast during the descent. While I didn’t tear my rotator cuff, I sprained it and had to take it easy for a few weeks while my shoulder healed.

    If you have bad shoulders or are older, you should probably skip the dips. My barbell coach, Matt Reynolds , has a simple rule regarding dips: “If you do a dip, and it bothers your shoulders, don’t do dips.”

    In place of dips, do another accessory exercise that works the triceps like a tricep rolling extension .

    How to Do a Dip

    To perform dips, you’ll need two parallel bars.

    These parallel bars can come in the form of two dip bars — freestanding, upside-down U-shaped apparatuses that can be moved around.

    You can also do dips at a pull-up/dip station. The dip bars at these stations are often angled so that the space between them is narrower toward the bar on which they’re mounted, and wider apart as they move out. This allows the dip station to accommodate different-sized individuals. If you’re smaller, you’ll want to grip the bars closer to the mount; if you’re bigger, you’ll grip the bars closer to their ends.

    If you have a home gym, you can buy a dip attachment for your squat rack.

    If you’re just starting out, avoid using gymnast rings for your dips. They’re unstable and increase the risk of tearing your rotator cuff while dipping.

    Grab the bars. Your grip should be wide enough that your hands are just outside your shoulders. Going wider than that will increase your risk of injury.

    Get in the start position. Jump up until your arms and elbows are fully extended. Bend your knees and lean forward slightly.

    Lower your body. Brace your abs and lower yourself in a controlled manner while keeping your forearms vertical and your body in a slight forward lean. Lower yourself until your shoulder goes just below your elbow. This will give you the most range of motion without going so deep that you injure yourself.

    Push yourself back up to the start position. You just did a dip.

    What If You Can’t Do a Dip?

    If you can’t do a single bodyweight dip, place a resistance band around the dip bars. Put the weight of your knees on the bands. This will give you some assistance during the movement. As you get stronger, decrease the resistance level of the band until you can do a full, unassisted dip.

    Increasing Weight with Dips

    If you can crank out more than ten reps of bodyweight dips with ease, it’s time to add weight.

    You can do that with a dip belt . It’s a leather or nylon belt with a chain attached. To add weight to your dips, you thread the chain’s free-hanging end through a barbell plate and hook it to your belt.

    Another way you can add weight to your dips is by putting heavy weightlifting chains around your neck. You definitely feel like a badass adding weight to your dips this way.

    Bench Dip Variation

    If you don’t have access to parallel bars, you can still work your triceps by doing a modified dip using a weight bench, a park bench, or a chair.

    Position yourself as if you’re going to sit down on the bench, but place your butt just off the bench’s edge with hands shoulder-width apart, gripping the edge. Adopt the proper bench dip posture: keep knees at 90 degrees; draw in and brace the abs; lock the shoulder blades back and down.

    Slowly lower your body by bending at the elbows and shoulders until your forearms create a 90-degree angle. Maintain good posture throughout.

    To increase the difficulty of this exercise, extend your legs out straight.

    Programming Dips

    As mentioned, dips are a great accessory exercise for the bench press and shoulder press. Matt typically programs dips for me on the days I do my upper-body workout. He’ll usually combine them with pull-ups.

    So my workout would look something like

    • Bench press
    • Shoulder press
    • Pull-ups
    • Dips

    If you’re just starting out with dips, you’ll need to slowly work your way up to 4 sets of 10 reps. Start off with 4 sets of as many as you can. This could be just 2 or 3 reps. Each week add a rep. When you can do 4 sets of 10 bodyweight dips, it’s time to add some weight with a dip belt or chains. Look to add 5 to 10 pounds at a time.

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      Podcast #863: Key Insights From the Longest Study on Happiness

      Brett & Kate McKay · tests.marevalo.net / The Art of Manliness · Wednesday, 11 January, 2023 - 17:03 · 2 minutes

    Started in 1938, the Harvard Study of Adult Development represents the longest study on happiness ever conducted. It set out to follow a group of men through every stage of their lives, from youth to old age, to discover what factors lead people to flourish.

    Here to share some of the insights that have been gleaned from the Harvard Study of Adult Development is Dr. Robert Waldinger , the current director of the project and the co-author of The Good Life: Lessons from the World’s Longest Scientific Study of Happiness . Today on the show, Robert explains how the study has affirmed the absolute primacy of relationships in happiness and how to develop the “social fitness” to make and enrich those vital connections. We discuss what the happily married couples in the study did differently, and why happiness in marriage tends to follow a U-shaped curve which hits its low point in midlife. We talk about how the way you were raised helps set a trajectory for your life, but how it’s also possible to overcome a rough upbringing to become a transitional character in your family. We also discuss the role that friends and work played in the happiness of the men who participated in the study. We end our conversation with what folks in every stage of development — whether youth, midlife, or older age — should focus on to live a flourishing life.

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      Why You Might Want to Wait ‘Til March to Make Your New Year’s Resolutions

      Brett & Kate McKay · tests.marevalo.net / The Art of Manliness · Tuesday, 10 January, 2023 - 15:37 · 7 minutes

    The goal of life is to make your heartbeat match the beat of the universe, to match your nature with Nature. —Joseph Campbell

    Did you neglect to make any New Year’s resolutions this year? Or did you make some, and one week into the new year, have already failed to keep them?

    You shouldn’t stress about that.

    Not because New Year’s resolutions are inherently worthless, mind you. One of the dumbest memes to emerge on social media in the last several years is the idea that they are. People say that you shouldn’t wait until January to make goals, that you should be trying to improve the whole year through, and blah, blah, blah.

    This kind of rah-rah-rah rhetoric ignores the research that shows that “temporal landmarks” — significant dates — can motivate you to reach your goals .

    Turning the page on the calendar, the expectation of starting anew, and the cultural conversation around resolutions all create a scaffolding that helps you reflect on how you’d like to improve and launch into making those improvements.

    It’s like holidays; you don’t need a special occasion to think about another person’s interests and buy them a gift, to write a love letter, to get friends and family together for a party, or to make special foods, but a calendared event prompts you to do those things to a degree you otherwise wouldn’t.

    So if you like making New Year’s resolutions and you did feel motivated to hit the ground running on January 1st, then that’s great, and by all means, you should ride that momentum for all it’s worth.

    If, however, you didn’t feel a wave of energy going into this month, that’s okay too. There may be a very good reason for that.

    Why You Might Want to Make March 20th Your New January 1st

    One of the most interesting insights Micah Mortali offered in our podcast episode about “befriending winter” is that January really isn’t the optimal time to make new goals.

    Micah, who uses outdoor experiences to develop mindfulness, is big on the idea articulated by Joseph Campbell above: trying to match the rhythm of your life to the rhythms of nature.

    In the winter — which Micah calls “the night of the year” — those natural rhythms tend toward a dynamic of rest. Animals hibernate. Plants go dormant. Water freezes over. The atmosphere of the season is quiet and still.

    Winter isn’t only a season of rest for the natural world; it used to be a season of rest for human beings too. Before the Industrial Revolution ushered out the seasonal cycle and ushered in twelve straight months of equally go-go-go activity, hunter-gatherer and agricultural peoples were less active in the winter. There were seasons for hunting, planting, and harvesting, and a season where things laid fallow; seasons of outward effort, and a season of inward retraction.

    So if ideas about what goals to make, along with the motivation to go after them, aren’t coming to you right now, it may be because this was a slower, more restful time of year for all of creation for thousands of years. Your vibe may be wanting to match the vibe of the universe, and that vibe is currently trending toward stillness.

    Micah thus suggests waiting until the dawn of spring, specifically around the time of the spring equinox, to make more concrete resolutions. After the spring equinox — which is March 20th this year — the days will start getting longer and the nights shorter. Photosynthesis will restart. Water will begin to thaw and flow. Buds will reappear. The world, including yourself, will reawaken, and it’s at this time that you may feel greater direction, clarity, and energy as to where you’d like to go and what you’d like to do in the coming year.

    So consider making March 20th the start of your personal new year. In so doing, you’ll combine the power of temporal landmarks with the power of matching your inner rhythm to that of Nature.

    What to Do During the Winter

    While it can be fruitful to embrace winter as a season of repose, that doesn’t mean you should cease activity altogether. Rather, you should continue the essential maintenance tasks that keep you vital, while shifting your focus to different kinds of activities — ones that are restful yet enriching.

    Trees are a good model for what this looks like.

    In winter, trees look entirely dormant. The branches of deciduous trees are stark and bare, and even evergreen trees stop growing new needles til spring. Above ground, trees don’t seem to be doing much.

    But below ground, it’s another story. As long as the soil stays warm enough, the roots of trees continue to grow during the winter. (It’s ironic and instructive that what keeps the ground warm enough for root growth even when the air is freezing is layers of snow; the deepening of winter promotes life.) As forester Michael Snyder explains , “This winter quiescence — where roots are resting but ready — is extremely important for the health of individual trees and, by extension, for forests in general. Indeed, it is this trait . . . that allows all species, including deciduous hardwoods, the opportunity to expand their root systems in search of water and nutrients in advance of spring bud break.” During the winter, tree roots move toward needed resources to gather the energy that will enable their branches to bring forth new leaves and flowers once the warmer months arrive.

    In the same way, while we may not be busy with frenetic upwards striving toward big new goals in the winter, we can use the time to deepen our roots, nourishing and strengthening our inner resources and establishing a strong base for another season of growth.

    Here are a few ways to slow down and rest while also expanding your personal root system during the winter:

    Reflect. Micah describes winter as an “open” season; you don’t have to yet know your exact, specific intentions for the year. Instead, the task is to send out feelers that will help you develop a vision of where you’d like to head as the subsequent months unfold.

    All these listed practices will help with that exploration, as will simple daily reflection. Spend some quiet time each day just letting your thoughts roam and range over the different possibilities and ideas that pop into your head.

    Read. When the weather outside is frightful, it’s the perfect time to sit by the fire and read a good book. Reading will plant plenty of seeds in your mind and soul that will eventually germinate as time goes on.

    Journal. As you work to expand, enrich, and explore your inner thoughts, it can also be helpful to see what they look like outside your head. Writing things down can help you better understand the parameters of your ideas and allow you to perceive how to take action on them.

    If you need ideas on how to journal to find patterns in your habits and move your thinking in proactive directions, listen to our podcast with Campbell Walker .

    Keep a dream journal. During this “night of the year,” dig more into what’s going on when you’re literally sleeping. Keep a journal by your bed and as soon as you wake up, write or draw what you can remember from what you dreamed about that night. As you regularly make entries, see if there are patterns in your dreams that may be pointing to a problem that needs addressing or an idea that needs birthing.

    Meditate . Aim to make your inner quietude match nature’s stillness in wintertime. Engage in formal meditation, or just take some time to stare into the fire in your fireplace or at the flame of a candle.

    Start Running When the Sap Does

    If you’re feeling your oats this January, ride that wave of momentum. Even though humans are part of the natural world, we’re also a distinct species, and part of that distinction is our ability to willfully cut across the dynamics of nature. Sometimes this is unwise, and sometimes it’s a perfectly healthy strategy to bring about a fruitful result. It’s okay to eat strawberries in February, and it’s okay to go after an audacious goal in the dead of winter.

    But if you don’t feel motivated to tackle some big resolution right now, and, come to think of it, never feel like doing that in January, then you should stop feeling guilty about it. Use this season to turn inwards: rest; dream; reflect; write; prepare for a fertile, flourishing rebirth in the spring.

    For more insights on how you can befriend winter, listen to our interview with Micah Mortali:

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