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      I’m attracted to women of a different type than my partner. What should I do?

      news.movim.eu / TheGuardian · Thursday, 15 February - 14:00

    It sounds like you really care about her, writes advice columnist Eleanor Gordon-Smith – but if this doesn’t change, you’re not doing her a favour by staying

    I’m in a relationship with someone I care about very, very much. We have so much in common, we both help each other on our journeys. People love seeing us together, and we benefit from our mutual connections as well. On paper, we are perfect … except that I find myself constantly attracted to other women of a completely different type.

    I knew about this difference in physical type when I met her, but I’d hoped that part of it was to do with a porn watching issue . I was never an hours-and-hours-a-day user, I just didn’t like my relationship with it. I have reached a consistent month with no watching, as of today, and I have had streaks like this before, but I am afraid that porn is still affecting how I perceive the relationship.

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      My girlfriend has a favourite sexual position – which I don’t enjoy. How can I tell her?

      news.movim.eu / TheGuardian · Thursday, 15 February - 10:00 · 1 minute

    I want face-to-face intimacy and full body contact, but her love of ‘reverse cowgirl’ is getting in the way

    During sex, my beautiful and brilliant new girlfriend often initiates the reverse cowgirl position – in other words, she is on top and facing away from me. She enjoys it, but I never cared much for this practice. It doesn’t allow for the intimacy and kissing of face-to-face positions or the full skin contact of spooning . As a result I pretty much zone out and fail to climax. Should I discourage her from doing this – and if so, how ?

    You need to discuss this, but try to be generous. Your girlfriend may have (cleverly) found a position that gives her the most pleasure given her specific anatomy and physiology – and yours. In that case it would be unwise and unfair to discourage her from doing it altogether. Instead, ask for what you need as well. The negotiation could go something like this: “It’s good to see you taking charge of your own pleasure and I want you to continue enjoying that position, but I’d like to switch it some of the time to enjoy face-to-face styles. Would that be OK?”

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      True romance: how to keep the love alive when your partner has been unfaithful

      news.movim.eu / TheGuardian · Wednesday, 14 February - 08:00

    Being cheated on feels like the end of the world. It takes hard work, but relationships can survive

    The trouble with romantic betrayal – apart from the obvious pain – is that it is the salacious lifeblood of everything from tabloid headlines and box sets to true crime podcasts. Because of this, there is a tendency to view it in highly dramatic terms. That is fine when we are snuggled up on the sofa watching other people’s heartbreak at a distance, but less helpful when it arrives closer to home.

    “He’s a cheater,” gossiped one friend recently about a mutual acquaintance’s partner. “She needs to throw him out and change the locks.” Well, maybe. But the man in question is a mild-mannered accountant who had, in the space of six months, lost his mother and his job. Could this have been a temporary blip?

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      True romance: how to keep the love alive when sex has gone

      news.movim.eu / TheGuardian · Tuesday, 13 February - 08:00

    Fantasising about other people? Wishing your partner was younger or fitter? It doesn’t have to mean the end of the relationship

    It’s rare for intense sexual chemistry to last. “We don’t talk about it enough,” says the relationship therapist Cate Campbell , “but it’s very normal for attraction to wane in a long-term relationship, especially as people get older and bodies change. Even if you love and care for your partner, you may fantasise about other people or wish they were younger or fitter. Mother nature tricks our brains into only seeing the positives when we start dating, but that wears off over time.”

    Some people find that loss of sexual connection is a dealbreaker, especially when it’s accompanied by other problems in the relationship. “If couples get out of the habit of being intimate,” Campbell says, “it can make them more critical of each other’s flaws.”

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      ‘Time-efficient foreplay’: inside the funny, filthy world of erotic podcasts

      news.movim.eu / TheGuardian · Monday, 12 February - 16:32

    From fan fiction about Disney cartoons having sex to raunchy shows from Hollywood stars, pornographic audio is podcasting’s hottest new trend

    Have you ever stood at the school gates, waiting to pick up your six-year-old, while secretly listening to fan fiction about Harry Potter and Draco Malfoy having sex up a tree after being chased by dinosaurs? I have – and it’s a fairly disorienting experience.

    I have listened to hours of pornography, erotica, romance and sex audio in thepast few weeks – starting with Fangasm , a series that began in 2017, in which three friends perform, dissect and discuss erotic fan fiction based on everything from Game of Thrones to The Little Mermaid, Barbie and Succession . Oh, and Harry Potter. (It was actually once called The Potterotica Podcast, such was the dedication to erogenous reimaginings of the goings-on at Hogwarts.)

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      Stress, the dog or too busy watching porn – what’s your excuse for not having sex? | Hephzibah Anderson

      news.movim.eu / TheGuardian · Sunday, 11 February - 06:30

    A survey says we have lost our appetite, but maybe we’re choosing quality over quantity

    Ah, Valentine’s Day, that annual orgy of uncomfortable lingerie, scentless roses and meal deal pairings as questionable as any Tinder match. If its imminence has you either bewailing your singleness or wondering where on earth you’re going to find the time and energy to fit both romance and sex into one midweek evening, you can take solace from findings that last week sent our Gallic cousins reeling.

    As it turns out, all is far from well in the land of l’amour, where the response to “Voulez-vous coucher avec moi, ce soir?” is increasingly likely to be “non!” – and that’s when the question is asked at all.

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      I’m tempted to have an affair with one of my wife’s friends | Ask Philippa

      news.movim.eu / TheGuardian · Sunday, 11 February - 06:00

    Take your fantasy beyond the sex – to your daughter’s heartbreak, your wife sobbing and the loneliness you will all feel. And try this eight-week course to get back on track sexually with your spouse

    The question I’ve been married for around eight years now and I have a beautiful daughter and love my wife, but the passion has completely gone and I’m no longer sexually attracted to her, which has led to an issue.

    I have found myself, over the last year, being attracted to other women and strongly attracted to one of her best friends in particular. At first, I didn’t think anything about any of the interactions we had, but when I look back over the past year or so, little things – holding hands or a hug on a night out – have played on my mind. This all culminated in the two of us kissing each other around two weeks back after a very drunken night out and now I don’t know what to do.

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      This is how we do it: ‘We schedule sex: every three days – to Madonna’s Hanky Panky’

      news.movim.eu / TheGuardian · Saturday, 10 February - 12:00

    Melissa and Don have a strict rota of times, tunes and positions – and after 40 years together, it still works for them both
    How do you do it? Share the story of your sex life, anonymously

    I have insecurities about my own body, so sex is not as straightforwardly pleasurable for me

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      Weekend podcast: Michael J Fox on Parkinson’s and a potential cure, Marina Hyde on Liz Truss’s relaunch, and Emma Stone’s Poor Things intimacy coordinator

      news.movim.eu / TheGuardian · Saturday, 10 February - 05:00

    Marina Hyde reviews ‘Liz Truss and the PopCons’, the Tory tribute act sounding a death knell for irony (1m28s); Catherine Shoard interviews Michael J Fox on pity, Parkinson’s – and a potential cure (9m40s); and Poor Things’ intimacy coordinator, Elle McAlpine , discusses consent, orgies and Emma Stone with Elle Hunt (25m27s)

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